A letter to a teenage girl | Little White Lies

A let­ter to a teenage girl

23 Jul 2015

A young woman drawing or writing in a notebook, wearing a striped top and sitting in a comfortable room.
A young woman drawing or writing in a notebook, wearing a striped top and sitting in a comfortable room.
The BBFC says that the tar­get audi­ence for The Diary of a Teenage Girl shouldn’t be able to see it.

Dear teenage girl, who­ev­er you are,

The BBFC have just award­ed an 18’ cer­tifi­cate to The Diary of a Teenage Girl, in the process rul­ing it as unsuit­able for a huge tranche of the film’s intend­ed audi­ence. That may include you.

When you’re under 18, adults are for­ev­er decid­ing what is and what isn’t suit­able for your ten­der eyes. A lot of the time it seems like these deci­sions are arrived at with the bare min­i­mum of imag­i­na­tion and engage­ment. Time-pressed adults err on the side of cau­tion and con­ser­vatism, and then move on.

Where does that leave you all? With an excuse to rebel. Why do what an author­i­ty fig­ure tells you if that author­i­ty fig­ure doesn’t take an inter­est in the issues affect­ing you?

This film is a rare beast in that it is made for teenage girls who are inter­est­ed in sex. The direc­tor Marielle Heller has said:

What if you’re a teenage girl who wants to have sex? If you are, there’s still this thing of feel­ing like a freak because every­thing you’ve ever read or seen tells you- you shouldn’t want it. Only boys want it. And that’s not true. Boys are giv­en so many exam­ples of films that say what­ev­er they feel sex­u­al­ly is nor­mal. And girls are rel­e­gat­ed to this one lit­tle area- you have this vir­gin­i­ty to pro­tect and boys are going to try and take it away from you. As girls, we have been trained for a long time to relate to a male pro­tag­o­nist, to feel their sto­ries and to be invest­ed in them. And there’s no rea­son why we can’t invest in female char­ac­ters the same way. Sex­u­al­i­ty is some­thing we’re both expe­ri­enc­ing and so if one side’s per­spec­tive is reflect­ed, the oth­er side should be reflect­ed too. Women’s sto­ries should be explored and cel­e­brat­ed too.”

Min­nie is a 15-year-old girl played by Bel Pow­ley and she is in con­trol of her own mind and body. Her sex­u­al awak­en­ing may be through the dra­mat­ic and fan­ci­ful sce­nario of an affair with her mother’s boyfriend, who is over dou­ble her age, but the feel­ings induced by the loss of her vir­gin­i­ty – excite­ment, con­fu­sion, attach­ment, lone­li­ness – are explored in an engag­ing and uni­ver­sal way.

Min­nie is not styled as a sex object. She stomps around in mud-coloured 70s cloth­ing with her hair hang­ing in a cur­tain around her face. She can’t talk open­ly with her moth­er (for obvi­ous rea­sons). Her con­fi­dante is a friend, and the way they speak to one anoth­er – ratch­et­ing up the tit­il­la­tion val­ues – isn’t the full truth.

The full truth is some­thing that Min­nie dic­tates into her record­ing machine. It is the diary ref­er­enced in the title and it holds her dal­liances with­out judge­ment, just like the film.

The film appre­ci­ates how huge the pos­si­bil­i­ties of the world beyond the home feel for a teenage girl. It appre­ci­ates how easy it is to make mis­takes and go too far and feel bad about that while still fear­ing inex­pe­ri­ence ahead of fear­ing pre­ma­ture knowl­edge. A thirst for adult life grabs you in your teens and the known world of child­hood and fam­i­ly begin to feel like a cage. Break­ing free is the holy grail despite not know­ing what you are break­ing into. When you are going through all of this, guides are essen­tial, or if guides’ is too well-behaved a word, then pio­neers’ or sur­ro­gates’.

I would have loved to have watched A Diary of a Teenage Girl when I was a teenag­er. It would have made me feel in good com­pa­ny in my strange­ness and it would have made me see awk­ward sex­u­al begin­nings with per­spec­tive. Being shield­ed from cer­tain films doesn’t pro­long inno­cence, it pro­longs disenfranchisement.

So if you are a teenage girl under 18 and you are inter­est­ed see­ing this film at the cin­e­ma, my advice is to give it a whirl. No rat­ings board can stop you. There are worse things a girl can do under-age – as indeed this film will show you. The film is based on an auto­bi­o­graph­i­cal graph­ic nov­el by Phoebe Gloeck­n­er. It’s a sto­ry about a real teenag­er for real teenagers. That is the (bell) bottom(ed) line.

Yours from many years in the future,

Sophie

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