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When Har­ry Met Sal­ly… (1989)

11 Dec 2015 / Released: 11 Dec 2015

Words by Glenn Heath Jr

Directed by Rob Reiner

Starring Billy Crystal, Carrie Fisher, and Meg Ryan

Crowded party scene with people dressed in formal attire, some wearing sequins, celebrating and interacting with each other.
Crowded party scene with people dressed in formal attire, some wearing sequins, celebrating and interacting with each other.
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Anticipation.

Her: “You’ve never seen it?” Me: “Um...”

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Enjoyment.

Cynically lovely and a whip smart archetype for the modern rom-com.

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In Retrospect.

Despite being copied countless times, it still feels fresh and brimming with spirit.

Nora Ephron and Rob Reiner’s sem­i­nal rom-com remains as fresh and feisty as ever.

We all have blind spots, both when it comes to cin­e­ma and love. After some­one new enters your life, these omis­sions can be revealed in stun­ning fash­ion. So goes my expe­ri­ence with Nora Ephron and Rob Reiner’s won­der­ful­ly alive and break­neck rom-com When Har­ry Met Sal­ly…. Much to the cha­grin of my new per­son, I’d nev­er seen this icon­ic, game-chang­ing genre film. How is that pos­si­ble?” she asked with the same stal­wart per­sis­tence as Meg Ryan’s Sal­ly. I was speech­less, very unlike Bil­ly Crystal’s ver­bose splat­ter gun of a char­ac­ter, Harry.

The film con­sid­ers truth bombs cou­ples will inevitably be argu­ing about until the end of time. Can men tru­ly be pla­ton­ic friends with women? Who does Ingrid Bergman real­ly choose at the end of Casablan­ca? Why didn’t Bruno Kir­by and Car­rie Fish­er star in their own roman­tic com­e­dy spin­off? Except the film itself is more about the life­long pur­suit of har­mo­ny. We see that it is indeed pos­si­ble when Rein­er cuts away from his pro­tag­o­nists to hap­py elder­ly love birds direct­ly address­ing the camera.

Ephron’s play­ful and ser­pen­tine script high­lights the con­tra­dic­tions of romance, specif­i­cal­ly the messi­ness of con­ver­sa­tions between men and women. In the open­ing sequence, Har­ry and Sal­ly are intro­duced for the first time in col­lege imme­di­ate­ly before they car­pool togeth­er from Chica­go to New York City. Both are begin­ning anew in the Big Apple, yet each is already set in their ways. Pre­dictably, they don’t get along. Years lat­er, fate inter­venes and Har­ry meets Sal­ly again, and then again at var­i­ous stages in their lives. Even­tu­al­ly a friend­ship devel­ops and genre con­ven­tions kick into high gear. He said, she said, and around we go. It’s all been done a mil­lion times since the film’s release in 1989, but nev­er this well.

Rein­er plays down the flash, util­is­ing longer takes to allow the actors plen­ty of room to rev­el in Ephron’s words. There is one zany split screen sequence involv­ing all four key char­ac­ters that rede­fines the def­i­n­i­tion of pil­low talk. It stands out as one of the film’s few pure­ly stylised moments. From a per­for­mance angle, Ryan’s feels like a vul­ner­a­ble pre­cur­sor to her lat­er roles in Sleep­less in Seat­tle and You’ve Got Mail, while Crys­tal toes the line between cyn­ic and roman­tic with arro­gant glee.

Har­ry and Sally’s long-ges­tat­ing rela­tion­ship is lit­tered with mis­com­mu­ni­ca­tions and per­son­al jabs. These add up over the years, some­times result­ing in uncom­fort­able and fun­ny out­bursts, the most famous of which involves a par­tic­u­lar­ly loud lunch date. But the film’s explo­ration of human com­pro­mise seems most rev­o­lu­tion­ary now. Con­sid­er­ing its sub­tle treat­ment of time pass­ing and peo­ple chang­ing, When Har­ry Met Sal­ly… might not imme­di­ate­ly seem grand, but it’s one of the few epics in the roman­tic com­e­dy genre.

Still, each moment feels unique­ly inti­mate, lived-in, and effu­sive. The char­ac­ters them­selves don’t imme­di­ate­ly sense the chem­istry they share, but the audi­ence cer­tain­ly does. Love at first sight takes a long time. The trou­ble with Har­ry and Sal­ly is they don’t always realise this, instead deny­ing their feel­ings out of unease or doubt. One final truth bomb: Erase the fear and only then can hap­pi­ly ever after” final­ly begin.

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