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How movies reveal the inti­mate details of romance

31 Oct 2016

Formal gardens with symmetrical rows of conical trees leading to historic buildings in the distance.
Formal gardens with symmetrical rows of conical trees leading to historic buildings in the distance.
A new short doc­u­men­tary taps into cinema’s poten­tial for pre­sent­ing love in all its com­plex forms.

It’s hard to know whether grand roman­tic ges­tures hap­pen IRL. They’re usu­al­ly spe­cial moments that hap­pen pri­vate­ly between lovers. Their mean­ing can be obscure, only known to the peo­ple involved. Maybe after the fact, it’s some­thing that might be shared with friends and acquain­tances, a ten­der gloat about the lengths a per­son is will­ing to go to express his or her com­mit­ment. But we nev­er real­ly get to wit­ness the actu­al moment of bliss, or the big reveal.

That’s where movies come in. With the help of a cam­era and, hope­ful­ly, a doe-eyed writer with a hand­ful of cher­ished per­son­al mem­o­ries, these secret moments can be recre­at­ed and revealed to the world. Per­haps the great­est mod­ern real­i­sa­tion of this idea is in Richard Linklater’s sub­lime, walk-and-talk Before’ tril­o­gy, in which Jesse (Ethan Hawke) and Celine (Julie Delpy) are seen at (rough­ly) ten-year inter­vals in their tumul­tuous relationship.

They bick­er and prod one anoth­er, they even occa­sion­al­ly descend into fierce argu­ments, but their love always finds a way through. Not in brazen ges­tures, or blurt­ed out dec­la­ra­tions, but in the details: a look; how close they wan­der, alter­na­tive­ly, through Vien­na, Paris and the Pelo­pon­nese; the way they touch; the way they can sec­ond-guess each other’s reac­tions. This is what the movies help us to see.

Anoth­er great mod­ern romance, When Har­ry Met Sal­ly…, presents a cou­ple who grad­u­al­ly under­stand that their con­tempt for one anoth­er is actu­al­ly the ini­tial pang of a beau­ti­ful romance. It’s a film that says know­ing what you don’t like about a per­son is a nec­es­sary for you to dis­cov­er what you do like about them. It’s also a film about the unique land­scape of New York City, from its plush apart­ments, favourite restau­rants and the romance that comes from tramp­ing Man­hat­tan streets at night.

In the film’s against-the-clock finale, Bil­ly Crystal’s Har­ry rush­es to a New Year’s par­ty to admit to Meg Ryan’s Sal­ly that every­thing he thought he hat­ed about her is why he adores her. Focus­ing on the tiny ges­tures of anoth­er per­son rather than the false way they present them­selves is the key to movie romance.

This new short doc­u­men­tary from Book​ing​.com cap­tures this very cin­e­mat­ic idea of romance being about small — rather than large — ges­tures. It presents a cou­ple who head to Vien­na to lay their eyes on Gus­tav Klimt’s The Kiss. There are sim­ple ways to show a lover that we under­stand them and are want to make a deep­er con­nec­tion to them. These are the moments that can trans­form an ear­ly-stage love affair into a long-haul romances for the ages.

Feel­ing roman­tic? Get inspired for your own roman­tic city trip here

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